Divorce Tips For Women

#1 - Accept That It's Over: Accept that your marriage is over and proceed with your own life. The best thing you can do for yourself and your children is to move ahead with your life and find happiness in a new relationship.

#2 - Help Your Children See The Good: When you see your child smile and it reminds you of their other parent, say something positive. For example, tell your child "you are lucky you have dad's beautiful blue eyes", or "mom's winning smile". Telling your child that through them you can see endearing parts of their other parent will go a long way in making your child feel secure. It allows your child to know that they will always be loved, even when they remind you of their other parent. It also tells the child that you still remember the good qualities of their other parent.

#3 - Keep Yourself Healthy: Eat as well as you can, get enough sleep and drink plenty of water. It sounds goofy, but if you are slightly dehydrated, or even a bit tired, you are not as smart as you usually are. Divorce is often times about conflict, and a good ‘attack' will leave you reeling. If you are healthy and well rested, you stand a better chance of weathering the assault.

#4 - Remember It Does End...Eventually: Your situation is unique so I can't tell you how long this will last, but I can tell you that it does end. It's basic physics...

#5 - Don't Make ‘Guilt' Based Promises: I don't know about you, but I felt badly when my marriage failed. Sure it takes two to make it work or fail, and I get that. But I'm human (although my Ex would likely disagree...) and it hurt. When we are in pain - especially emotional pain - we tend to make ‘silly' promises to make ourselves feel better. Don't do it! If you have a lawyer on your payroll, they'll tell you basically the same thing. Emotions are expensive and can cost you more than the moment it took to make that promise.

#6 - Set Realistic Goals: Letting go of your marriage is not easy. For years you thought of yourself as one partner in a two partner relationship. You planned on growing old together and now you have gone your separate ways. Set realistic goals for yourself. Start small: changing your routines, doing things that you have enjoyed but were blocked from doing as your mate did not agree. Use the time of healing for finding yourself. Look to the positive side of yourself not the negative side. Build your new life by building your sense of self.

#7 - Keep Your Sense of Humor: They can take the house, they can take the car, they can take the kids and the dog...but they cannot take away your sense of humor.